✦ Stop Pretending — The Hidden Door to True Clarity
"Clarity isn’t just about what you want. It’s about what you’re done pretending to want."
– Roxie Nafousi
We live in an era where “follow your desires” has become a sacred mantra. Manifestation is everywhere. Vision boards, intentions, affirmations — we’re told to dream big.
But what if the reason your desires haven’t manifested yet…
…isn’t a lack of belief — but a lack of honesty?
Not about what you want.
But about what you’re still pretending to want.
✦ The Desires That Aren’t Yours Anymore
We often carry dreams that don’t actually belong to us. They were shaped by:
our upbringing (“a real job is safe and steady”),
social media (“I want that house/career/relationship too”),
older versions of ourselves (“I worked so hard for this — I should want it”).
These desires burrow into our system, and before we realize it, we’re pouring energy into goals that secretly drain us.
That’s why clarity isn’t just about knowing what you want.
It’s about having the courage to let go of what you no longer do — even if you once fought hard for it.
✦ The Cost of Untrue Desires
When you keep pretending, something subtle yet significant happens:
You send mixed signals to the universe.
Your energy becomes fragmented.
You rely on willpower to force something that your soul doesn’t align with.
That’s when you feel stuck, tired, confused or frustrated.
It’s not failure — it’s feedback.
A quiet signal that something isn’t true anymore.
✦ A Call to Radical Honesty
True manifestation begins the moment you:
✦ Acknowledge what no longer fits.
Even if it once did. Even if others are proud of it.
✦ Allow yourself to release it.
Not because you gave up — but because it’s no longer yours to carry.
✦ Trust that your soul’s true desire holds more power than any plan your mind once made.
It doesn’t have to be logical. It only has to be true.
✦ Reflection Questions for Today
✦ What am I still pretending to want — even though I’ve already outgrown it?
✦ What dream, role, or identity can I lovingly let go of?
✦ If no one needed anything from me… what would I choose today?
✦ In Closing
Clarity is an act of self-love.
It doesn’t require more affirmations, but deeper alignment.
Not bigger desires — but truer ones.
Not dreaming louder — but dreaming honestly.
And when you do that… everything shifts.
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Ready to embody that shift?
At the Business & Soul Institute, we help leaders and creators align their inner truth with their outer path — not through more doing, but through soul-led being.
✦ Lead your business with your soul’s intelligence.